-Carol Williams
Whether you're single by choice or not, I hope you find this blog interesting, entertaining and even enlightening. It's my intention to cover just about sharing my journey and anything that applies to being single in the senior years.
After my husband passed away in 2011, The Bee Gees song "How Do You Mend a Broken Heart" kept playing in my head. Max had been ill for quite some time. I knew he was going to die, but one is never actually ready for such an event.
How was I supposed to "adjust" to life when the love of my life, my soulmate, the focus of my life for the last 30 years is gone?
I struggled to find a new identify, purpose, and passion after Max's passing. He can never be replaced, of course, but I had to carry on. I have tried to focus on the treasure of the time we had together. I needed to move on in search of something that gave my life even a small percentage of the happiness I felt with him. I felt totally content with Max... even in the last several months when he was bedridden.
As I moved on, I found myself slowly recreating myself. I didn't particularly want to spend much time at home because it was lonely and quiet. Thankfully, I was in a position to do some traveling, visiting with family and friends.
I feel like I'm in a pretty good place now to share my journey and maybe make it a little easier (and more fun) for others out there.
As I look back on the process over the last 7 years, I think there have been 4 phases to my recovery.
1. Grief from loss
2. Acceptance of loss
3. Re-creation of self
4. Embracing the future
Stay tuned...
Carol
